Men may come and men may go,
but best friends stay forever!
Wiser words have never been
spoken.
Human beings function on two
major levels, social and romantic, so there is no question of choosing between
your boyfriend/girlfriend and your friend. It’s like asking to choose between
Harry Potter and chocolate.
The worst kinds of people in
the world are who forget their friends when they enter into a relationship.
Your friends have been there for you longer than any other person. They’ve seen
you in your worst, and been with you at your best. If someone asks you to choose between your
friends or him or her, by someone I obviously mean your boyfriend or
girlfriend, then the choice is very clear.
Who am I kidding? I would
sacrifice all my friends, if that would get Hugh Jackman to love me. I am
shallow like that!
But if you’re not me, then
here’s a list of top ten reasons why you should never sacrifice friendship for
love.
Enjoy
1. No judgment!
You can wear the worst pair
of pajamas you own and may be having a bad hair day and your friend wouldn’t
bat an eyelid. No protecting the ‘feminine mystique’ or dolling up required.
You can do anything and everything in front of your friend, and she will not
judge you. I am not saying that you have to be somebody else in front of the
person you love, but there is absolutely no chance of any form of judgment with
your best friend. And if you are lucky enough, then maybe you would end up with
a person who is like that. But there is more chances of me sprouting wings and
flying up the chimney than that happening.
I’m way too cynical for my
own good.
2. Ogling at Chris Hemsworth’s abs.
Colin Morgan’s cheekbones,
David Tennant’s hair… you get the drift, right? You can spend forever drooling
over Hrithik Roshan or discuss in detail, each and every part of Jake
Gyllenhaal’s anatomy with your best friend. That is not cheating, that is just
fantasizing, you can do it with your best friend, but never your boyfriend, I
can bet my T.A.R.D.I.S t shirt that your boyfriend wouldn’t really appreciate
you drooling over Hugh Jackman. Every woman needs a vent where she can
objectify and ogle at men, without any consequence.
3. Long shopping trips.
The thought that we can take
as long as we want browsing through books, or go through twenty thousand stores
before we find that perfect dress, without someone grumbling at our side, is
nothing short of perfect. When you go out with your best friend for shopping,
you can not only spend hours deciding which earring would go with what item in
your closet, because FYI, she would be aware of each and every item in your
closet, you can also do it without any guilt that your boyfriend might be
getting bored.
You can go for shopping with
your best friend, and try on a million clothes AND get a good opinion too.
4. Always a standing date for lunches or movies
You can always rely on your
best friend to drop everything and join you for a movie or for a quick lunch. Whenever
you feel like getting out of the house and go for a cup of coffee, your ‘loved
one’ might decline, but nothing short of an apocalypse or a meteor crash would
stop your best friend, if you call her. That’s just the way things are.
You know your best friend
will go to the horrible movie you love for reasons that nobody could
understand, without any question.
5. Does not believe you are crazy/weird
You can quote every line from
Harry Potter and you know obscure trivia about Star Wars, your best friend will
accept this and love you for this. I have spent so much time pondering over the
future Sherlock episodes, I have discussed in details the infinite
possibilities of there being a T.A.R.D.I.S, and the Doctor being real (he is),
the point is, I’ve done all this with my best friend, I don’t think any guy
would understand how I feel for all these fictional characters. This was my
quirk, whatever your quirk maybe, your best friend will never think of you as a
batty lunatic. More than what you can expect from your ‘loved one’.
6.Knows the true ‘you’.
Your best friend knows that
you cried like a baby at the ending of Merlin, she knows that you hate cold
coffee… she knows you. It’s an instinctive best friend thing. Just by looking
at your smile, she can guess that there is something wrong, or something that
you’re not telling her. It’s something that every friend just gets, a natural
instinct, programmed into the systems of best friends, if you will.
She knows every little or big
thing about you, which might take your boyfriend million years to get, even
then there is a ninety percent chance that you confuse the hell out of him.
7. ‘That’ look.
You know what look I’m
talking about? The look your best friend gives you when your crush walks by.
The look she gives you when a person you both dislike is talking. The look you
exchange when you are asked to partner up for a group assignment. Or someone
says something that is a shared joke between the two of you. It implies that
you think the same way about most things.
It is priceless.
8. Your enemies, her enemies.
She may not even know the
person you hate, but as soon as she gets to know that you hate her, that person
becomes her mortal enemy.
Nobody can get away with
hurting you; your best friend has always got your back. Cosmo did a survey
amongst men, and found out that one of the most confusing thing about women is
that they will hate someone for almost no reason other than their best friend
hating them. This concept is lost on most men, and we don’t blame them, but
this is one more reason why friends always trump your boy friend.
9. You don’t need to change
You can be anything and
nothing and that would be enough. No need to change. One of the things I have observed in my
friends who are in a relationship, is that at first the person would like
everything different about you but gradually, those differences start annoying
them, and they expect you to change. Your best friend loves you for all that
you are and aren’t. He/ she doesn’t expect any change from you.
10. I’ll be there for you, cause you’re there for me to!
The Rembrandts have it right. They’ll always be
there for you. No mater what. Even if you’ve fought, said things which you
regret, the moment you need her, she will be there for you. However cheesy it
